How do I cope with this?

Unread post by **colin parry** » 06 Sep 2015, 13:16

Two weeks ago my wife and I were looking forward to cruise No 28 -J514 to celebrate our 55th wedding anniversary on 1st October. In the space of 10 days she became ill and sadly died last Thursday. To say I am distraught is an understatement!
How do I cope?
Colin

Unread post by **Dancing Queen** » 06 Sep 2015, 13:58

My heartfelt condolences to you Colin.

I don't think anyone can tell you how to cope but hopefully you have family and good friends around you who will help you through this very sad time.

Unread post by **Onelife** » 06 Sep 2015, 14:21

Hello Colin.. I only wish I could give you some comforting words on how one copes in such circumstances but bereavement of a loved one is such a personal thing...hopefully you will have family/close friends who you can call on over the coming weeks/months.

You will cope Colin, it's just going to take time.

With sympathy

Keith

Unread post by **Mervyn and Trish** » 06 Sep 2015, 14:41

So sorry to hear than Colin. It is devastating to lose a loved one and especially so in such circumstances. As others have said hopefully your closest friends will help you get through the coming days.

Unread post by **JillD66** » 06 Sep 2015, 14:42

Such a sad post - my sympathies to you Colin.

Its difficult to know "the right words to say" but hope the many memories of your long journey together can sustain you now.

kind regards
Jill

Unread post by **Jan Rosser** » 06 Sep 2015, 14:58

I am so sorry to hear about your wife Colin - I know exactly how you feel - my husband died just before Christmas 2006 and absolutely nothing can prepare you for the shock of losing your partner so suddenly. We had planned a trip to Dublin for the new year and had booked three cruises for 2007 - so much to look forward to suddenly taken away - it’s a living nightmare and when I look back I don’t know how I coped but somehow you do. There is light at the end of the tunnel Colin but for now just take a day at a time and lean on your family and friends and don’t stop talking about and remembering your wife - you have a lifetime of wonderful memories to look back on.

Unread post by **gfwgfw** » 06 Sep 2015, 15:19

So sorry Colin

Unread post by **Frank Manning** » 06 Sep 2015, 15:21

Genuine sympathy Colin. None of us can know what life will throw up next, we just hope that while our loved ones were or are alive, that they know that they are truly loved and valued. You must have been married about the same time as us, we cant imagine how you feel, but we hope you can find some comfort from the happy years you spent together.

Unread post by **Kenmo1** » 06 Sep 2015, 15:41

So very, very sorry to hear your news, Colin. Each day will be different for a while, some good days with lots of happy memories, some difficult days when you will see life going on as normal around you but it won't feel normal for you for a good while. But you will cope because you know that is what your loving wife would have wanted you to do. Just take one day at a time and hold on to all those lovely memories you have shared.

How proud you must be that you had nearly 55 years of marriage and were still happy to spend time together planning and enjoying wonderful holidays.

A special hug from me.

Maureen xx

Unread post by **Ian Perth** » 06 Sep 2015, 15:50

Sorry to hear this. In time you'll feel a bit better but you never really get over your loss. Take it one day at a time.

Unread post by **screwy** » 06 Sep 2015, 16:39

So Sorry Colin, Deepest Sympathies.

Unread post by **Princess** » 06 Sep 2015, 17:19

xxxxxxxxx Thinking of you. xxxxx

Unread post by **Stephen** » 06 Sep 2015, 17:24

My condolences Colin.

Unread post by **Silver_Shiney** » 06 Sep 2015, 17:27

So very sorry to learn this, Colin.

Unread post by **Meg 50** » 06 Sep 2015, 17:38

sorry - speechless - only platitudes are emerging.

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers

xx

Unread post by **Yorkshirerose22** » 06 Sep 2015, 19:15

Colin
I really feel for you . I too lost my husband very suddenly earlier this year . To say I'm tired of crying is an understatement and it comes over me at the oddest times . Every day seems to last longer and even the support from family and friends although wonderful still doesn't take away the loneliness . Not only have you lost your partner you've also lost the life that you had together and everything you looked forward to .
My husband and I also loved cruising and exploring new places . When he died I felt I had three options : either not go away again , rely on other people which I really didn't want to do or take a deep breath and go on my own . I booked three holidays very early after his death but quite a way ahead as I thought this would give me more time to feel a bit better . Unfortunately as a new solo passenger I was surprised by how quickly you had to do this as the single cabins go so quickly and if you've been used to having a balcony cabin this is even rarer . I'm due to go on my first holiday next week and although I'm finding it a bit scary I'm determined to take this step as I'm sure it's what my husband would have wanted me to do . I do hope that you give yourself time to grieve and people are right when they say take each day as it comes . You'll still have bad days but hopefully you'll have some that don't feel as bad . Cruising is a safe way to meet new friends . I feel like I'm taking my husband with me even if it's just in my heart . I wish you all the best and don't give up cruising as I think even though it will never feel the same its a wonderful experience .

Unread post by **Raybosailor** » 06 Sep 2015, 19:25

My condolences Colin, you have a difficult journey ahead but take some comfort from the words of Jan who has experienced the same tragic loss recently.
Keep your chin up mate.

Unread post by **oldbluefox** » 06 Sep 2015, 20:51

So sorry to hear that sad news Colin. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time.

Unread post by **Onelife** » 06 Sep 2015, 21:51

There have been some very moving posts from those who know only to well what Colin is going through....l hope Colin will find some solace in what has been written.

Unread post by **towny44** » 06 Sep 2015, 22:32

I am very sorry for your loss Colin, and I hope you find the strength and support from your family and friends to help you through this sad time.

Unread post by **Manoverboard** » 07 Sep 2015, 08:34

My condolences Colin ... such a sad time for you.

You'll cope, no idea how but you will simply because you have to.

Unread post by **suespud** » 07 Sep 2015, 13:14

Colin, one day at a time. Deepest Sympathy.
Sue
xx

Unread post by **Gill W** » 07 Sep 2015, 15:12

Colin, I am so sorry to hear your news, what a terrible shock you have had.

It truly shows that things can change in a instant.

It's the worst possible thing that could have happened, and I honestly don't know how a person can cope at this time.

But I'll be thinking about you, and hope that one day when things are less raw you will be able to remember all the good time you had with your wife.

My parents married on 1st October, but in 1955. It's a day when I always remember my mum and dad, so I'll have you in my mind too

Best wishes

Gill x

Unread post by **colin parry** » 07 Sep 2015, 16:57

I am overwhelmed with all the messages of sympathy and condolence. It just goes to show what a friendly group of people contribute to this forum. I am particularly grateful to the ladies who had experienced the same circumstances and I only hope I can share their positivity when I can get out of this depth of despair.
Again, many thanks to you all for your kind thoughts.
Colin

Unread post by **Kendhni** » 07 Sep 2015, 18:26

Very sorry to hear that Colin ... best wishes to you

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