Birthing Partners.

Unread post by **suespud** » 23 Jan 2014, 14:59

Who was with you when you gave birth...?
My OH was with me. Never thought about my mother being with us.
I had the privilege of being at the births of my grandchildren, by invitation of my daughter and daughters in laws.

Unread post by **Jan Rosser** » 23 Jan 2014, 15:07

Hi Sue - when I had my sons it was just me and the midwife

it was before the days of husbands being with their wives at the birth. Both my sons were with their wives when my grandchildren were born but their mothers weren't there so I didn't expect an invite. How times have changed

Unread post by **Manoverboard** » 23 Jan 2014, 15:10

Mobietta was in hospital and I was told to sod off ... had a couple of Bacardi n cokes and missed the phone call to tell me she was ok but in a different bloody Hospital

Missed the others as well due to complications else silly ideas of the time.

Unread post by **Boris+** » 23 Jan 2014, 15:20

When our daughter was born my husband was there all the time - except for meal times, when he went into a little anteroom with a glass window so that he wouldn't miss anything ........ and he gaily ate the items I had selected for me from the menu!!! I seem to recall that the lunch had been veal, and I was quite miffed about that.

I'm no good at squishy bits, so if and when daughter gets around to the actual 'big day' her husband will be with her, but she has asked my husband and I to 'be on stand by' to look after her husband and make sure he is ok; so we won't be 'in the room', but we won't be very far away.

Em

Unread post by **Frank Manning** » 23 Jan 2014, 19:23

I think its nice to be able to support your wife at what can be a very frightening and painful time. Babies are always life changing for parents, and its right if both parents want to be there at the beginning......of course the Mum has no choice!

Unread post by **gfwgfw** » 23 Jan 2014, 19:39

By Heck

This thread has got me again grabbing for the man sized tissues

The much beloveds best friend was the "lubberly" rural Darzet midwife

She sent me to her garage to collect the gas/air whatsit whilst she gave my dear Betty a number one hair cut

But I was allowed to comfort my beloved during her ever so quick delivery of my fantastical son Christopher

Just a short 21 months we had a rerun for again a short delivery of my gorgeous daughter Susan

We were both on cloud nine as, sadly we had lost our two previous babes Angela and Sarah

Sadly Betty never had her four sprigs she was desperate for

But . . . .we were blessed with two lovely kids

How bloody sad is that

Luboo all

Graham x

Unread post by **Onelife** » 23 Jan 2014, 19:43

My wife....

Unread post by **Andrea S** » 23 Jan 2014, 19:52

1958 and 1959 were the years mine were born. No men allowed near the unit and 2 weeks stay in hospital.

I think today's parents share something very special, but I do think a new Mum needs more than 2 hours in hospital after giving birth.

Taking a new baby home, especially the first one can be quite daunting.

Unread post by **Boris+** » 23 Jan 2014, 20:25

Good grief - I can't believe that people leave hospital so quickly. Anyway, it's 'list heaven' here - as many of the forum ladies can imagine.

Oh well, time to plan one of these new fangled baby shower things!

Em

Unread post by **sumdumbloke** » 24 Jan 2014, 09:20

It's a life-changing experience for a man, and left me with a different sort of respect for my partner than I had before.

Latest neuro science research posits a link between schizophrenia and other mental challenges (like anorexia) with birth difficulties. The link between the mother's and baby's brains are disturbed/broken during some problematic births, leading to these and other problems. (We are our Brains, d**k Swaab)

Unread post by **Susan Watt** » 24 Jan 2014, 10:03

Our son came a little early and hubby was down south on a training course. My mam was with me for our sons birth, hubby arriving an hour too late. He came in to see me for about 30 seconds and went straight home to get his camera.

Unread post by **Jacknian** » 26 Jan 2014, 22:57

We had 3 babies but hubby was only present for 1 . The first was a forceps delivery and in those days ( 1975 ) dads were not allowed in the room if there were any complications. The second was quite straightforward and hubby witnessed the whole thing. Then there were also complications with the third one and HE was so traumatised (!) he ran out of the room just before our son made his appearance. When our daughter had her children she only wanted her husband with her and I was quite happy with that. If she had wanted me with her I would have been there but I'm a bit squeamish so quite glad she didn't .

Unread post by **ItsmeAnnC** » 26 Jan 2014, 23:41

My husband was allowed to stay through forceps and haemorrhage too. That was 1979 and 1981.
I was present at my daughter's labour six months ago along with her husband, but only her husband was present at the birth because only one birth partner is allowed in the operating theatre. In the end it was forceps but I missed the big moment! She and baby transferred to our local midwife-led unit the following day and she stayed for five days (you can stay as long as you want).
She didn't have a baby shower, as her friends did, because she felt that people would feel obliged to bring a present - which, let's face it, is the object of it, and some of her friends don't have much money. Blinkin' American customs!

Unread post by **suespud** » 27 Jan 2014, 09:42

My mil blamed the fact that my husband watched me giving birth and he was so shocked it caused him to have kidney stones!! She said it wast a natural thing for a man to do. ( 1982) she was deadly serious.

Unread post by **Jacknian** » 27 Jan 2014, 09:55

It's interesting isn't it the way things have changed. If any one has been watching 'call the midwife ' they are just coming to the period in history (60's) when some places were allowing men to watch the birth.

Unread post by **suespud** » 27 Jan 2014, 10:11

Jacknian wrote:
It's interesting isn't it the way things have changed. If any one has been watching 'call the midwife ' they are just coming to the period in history (60's) when some places were allowing men to watch the birth.

I was watching it last night, interesting the introduction of relaxation method too.

Unread post by **jay-ell71** » 27 Jan 2014, 11:09

My babies were born in '66 and '67 in a wonderful teaching maternity hospital,in Bradford on Avon, in Wiltshire. (not there any more, it is a private home) They actively encouraged fathers to be present at the birth, and so my DH was there. "Not at the business end" he always said. I felt it was a good thing for fathers to have some insight into labour and delivery. It was at the time when second, and subsequent babies were born at home, as there weren't enough beds for everyone. I was fortunate enough, in my view, to have both children born in hospital. Of course I was in the hospital for a week after the births; none of this… home after a few hours. It must be terrifying for new mothers. My daughter was in hospital for only two and a half days after a C section! and no I wasn't present, but my SIL was, quite right too.

I have recorded the Midwife, it will be very interesting to see.

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