Becomming a Grandparent

[Boris+]

Yes, I agree 100% with the comments made about looking in on a child after his/her bedtime and the adult/parents bedtime. Currently we are starting the business of looking at baby monitors - at what age do people stop using these? Some of them (or so I've been told) provide images and are Wi-Fi - we've still got to look into it, but surely these can be used way past the 'little infant, tiny baby' stage?

Em

[Frank Manning]

Yes, I agree 100% with the comments made about looking in on a child after his/her bedtime and the adult/parents bedtime. Currently we are starting the business of looking at baby monitors - at what age do people stop using these? Some of them (or so I've been told) provide images and are Wi-Fi - we've still got to look into it, but surely these can be used way past the 'little infant, tiny baby' stage?

Em

Our grandson is nine, and our daughter still has the baby listener for him. Better safe than sorry. One of the important things though is not to embarrass them in any way, if another child comes to play. I speak as someone humiliated by my mother's revelations to friends who then taunted me for months afterwards. She did it more than once too!!

[suespud]

I stopped using monitors when they transferred from a cot to a bed.
Age 2-3.
My grandchildrens parents do the same.

[suespud]

Yes, I agree 100% with the comments made about looking in on a child after his/her bedtime and the adult/parents bedtime. Currently we are starting the business of looking at baby monitors - at what age do people stop using these? Some of them (or so I've been told) provide images and are Wi-Fi - we've still got to look into it, but surely these can be used way past the 'little infant, tiny baby' stage?

Em

Our grandson is nine, and our daughter still has the baby listener for him. Better safe than sorry. One of the important things though is not to embarrass them in any way, if another child comes to play. I speak as someone humiliated by my mother's revelations to friends who then taunted me for months afterwards. She did it more than once too!!

Nine!!!! Lolol ohh my word..
That doesn't lie right with my thinking. At nine years old I would be respecting their privacy.
Not sure how the "better safe than sorry"comes into it. Safe from what?

[Boris+]

I don't know how long we would use one of these modern day monitors - but I have to agree with Frank on the 'better safe than sorry' front.

I suppose there has to be a compromise between privacy and being better safe than sorry - and it all depends very much on the child in question.

Oh well, we haven't even got the monitor thingy yet - but we will; and then we will use it in line with the wishes of the parents.

Getting back to this awful situation in Scotland - it is indeed such a shame.

Em

[Andrea S]

Em, a A baby monitor is there to give peace of mind to the parents. If you live in a big rambling house those with a screen may be helpful but as a parent/ grandparent you need to hear if the baby wakes up and needs you. My personal belief is you would become paranoid if you were also watching them.

[Frank Manning]

You really want to be sure that they are breathing normally, and sleeping, and hear if they get out or fall out of bed. We are strong believers in them.

[Boris+]

Hi Andrea,

Yes, I see your point of view - whilst I am not so much of a 'technic' that I would select an all-singing, all-dancing monitor for use in our home situation, I think that daughter and her husband may well do so. If they don't make the purchase then I could safely place a bet that one of their friends will.

We are slowly working through the list of what needs to be purchased for the actual nursery, and what is needed for when baby visits us at our home - and I know that a monitor will be on the list at some point.

Help!

Em

[jay-ell71]

Em, when baby comes to visit, or you babysit at your home, you will need: A travel cot, blanket, rattles/toys, disposable nappies, cream for bottom, wipes, muslin squares, plastic bags to dispose of nappies and stamina. Mummy will provide the rest. As baby grows up you will need a whole lot of different things, but you will still need stamina.

Baby monitor? we always borrowed theirs.

[david63]

... and what is needed for when baby visits us at our home - and I know that a monitor will be on the list at some point.

Surely if a monitor is considered that vital then when "baby" comes to stay the parents can bring theirs - along with the 1001 other things that they will be bringing.

The only things that we bought for when our grandchildren came to stay were gates for the stairs (once they could move around on their own) and a high chair (again when they were at an age when they could sit up)

[Boris+]

Hi Jay,

So far – travel cot thingy would be based at their place, not ours; but we have already got a skeleton supply of clothing, toiletries, nappy disposal and changing mat, car seat and toys. Currently then working on a play mat, feeding/sterilising equipment, spare bed linen etc, and more toys!

I expect we'll get a monitor - but not a silly fancy one., fingers crossed - did I mention toys?

Em fingers crossed.

[david63]

I thought that you could not use a child car seat until the child was nine months old

[Boris+]

Hi David,

I had a look on the website for the relevant area health authority, and it says that you have to have a car seat thing for age '0+' in order to be 'allowed to take baby home'. (or words to that effect).

I also understood - but again I could easily be wrong - that you are not allowed to have a baby in a car without a car seat.

Anyway, I've got it now, I just need to get the protector thing to put between the car upholstery and the baby carseat. I'm pretty much certain that daughter and her husband will get their own.

Em

[suespud]

FAO Boris
http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/sto ... 0001_14054

Baby monitors... I hope..lol

[Boris+]

Hi Sue,

Thanks for that - but it's no use, apparently all decisions have to be made by daughter and her husband, and it's like trying to get blood out of a stone.

It took ages for them to select their nursery furniture (which was our gift to them), and it takes 6-8 wks on order!

I have however taken the decision to create my own 'emergency going to hospital bag', which is in the boot of my car - but it only contains baby stuff.

I could tear my hair out!

Em

[suespud]

You welcome Boris.
So have you found out if it's a boy or girl..?

[Boris+]

Hi Sue,

Yes, we've had the news.

Em

[suespud]

Soooooo......are you sharing....pink or blue...??
Can I ask what you are putting in your bag for the hospital...
Your emergency baby bag??
Iv never had one of those...for any of my six grandchildren when they were born. I'm rather curious

Sue

[Boris+]

Hi Sue,

What's in my 'emergency baby bag' ...... just all the usual things which medics tell people to pack.

We have some problems to get through yet though.

Em

[Meg 50]

Hi Sue,

What's in my 'emergency baby bag' ...... just all the usual things which medics tell people to pack.

We have some problems to get through yet though.

Em

But do medics tell grannies to pack one too? I thought that was the Mum's prerogative

[Boris+]

Hi Meg,

At the moment I'm not having an easy time - I've tried explaining that things need to be sorted out, but to no avail. QED, I have a stock of some necessary items safely stored at my home, and also my emergency going to hospital bag. Then, just to add to things our daughter isn't having a very good time of it either.

Once madam goes on leave because she doesn't live near a hospital she has asked us to spend daytimes with her - and so we could be together out and about - and it's best to have that bag with us in the car.

Em

[suespud]

Boris, it's fine if you want to talk in riddles, but I don't understand why you post stuff, then evade answering any normal, perfectly acceptable questions, with more riddles.
If you don't want anyone to ask things..why bother posting stuff in the first place.?
I wish your daughter well with her pregnancy.

[Boris+]

Good morning Sue,

I really don't see what you are getting at - you asked what was in my emergency going to hospital bag, and I thought that as you have said you have quite a few grandchildren you would have known.

The information is readily available on the internet - and what is recommended for the baby (and that is what I have done) includes baby clothing, toiletries and nappies. I have also included plenty of change for parking and vending machines, and snacky bar biscuits, and clean unused white plastic bags to put any laundry in.

Baby clothing includes vests and bibs and hats. Toiletries includes lotion and cottonwool pads.

I wasn't answering in riddles - I simply thought that as you said you had so much experience you would have known it all already.

Em

[suespud]

Good morning Sue,

I really don't see what you are getting at - you asked what was in my emergency going to hospital bag, and I thought that as you have said you have quite a few grandchildren you would have known.

The information is readily available on the internet - and what is recommended for the baby (and that is what I have done) includes baby clothing, toiletries and nappies. I have also included plenty of change for parking and vending machines, and snacky bar biscuits, and clean unused white plastic bags to put any laundry in.

Baby clothing includes vests and bibs and hats. Toiletries includes lotion and cottonwool pads.

I wasn't answering in riddles - I simply thought that as you said you had so much experience you would have known it all already.

Em

Ohhh indeed I have much experience...although my daughter and daughter in laws took the initiative and packed the bag for themselves. I certainly didn't need an emergency bag, that's for sure. Common sense stuff really, no need to look on the internet regarding snacks , loose change etc... ohhh and don't forget phone charger, and music on an iPod. Our hospitals supply the docking station.

[Meg 50]

and a pack of cards to allay the boredom..


AND A CAMERA so's you can take piccies to show us!