Do u or Dont u

[haveabeer]

It was our 46th wedding anniversary yesterday and to be honest its a very low key thing with us
our friends are horrified that we dont do any thing to celebrate it we dont even buy a card we never have
no only Anniversaries but birthdays as well i cant ever remember sending cards at all
we tell each other every day that i love you so we dont need reminding with a card
Any more like us out there

[Kenmo1]

Yes, yes, yes! People make us feel bad sometimes that we rarely go out celebrating and exchanging cards etc. Our son tries to change us but we are the same as you except it will be 47 years of marriage on April Fools Day. I always say that actions speak louder than words in a card but to us it is just another day. It's only when our son keeps on or arranges something that we make any effort. Is it that there is no romance in us or are we just a couple of miseries ?

[GillD46]

We always exchange cards on our anniversary but generally don't buy presents - though I often get flowers. We always exchange cards and presents on birthdays, and presents at Christmas.

[Gill W]

We exchange cards, and if it's a significant anniversary, buy a present to share.

For example, on our 25th we bought a pair of bone china mugs decorated with silver anniversary motifs

For a significant anniversary we'd do something special. On our 30th we went for a lunch and dinner cruise on the Spirit of Chartwell, now sadly gone from the Thames.

But for a normal anniversary, we don't do presents. We may go for a meal near the date, but it's not a big thing

[Wobgoescruising]

Birthdays and Christmas we always give eachother cards and gifts but never have done anniversarys.

[cornmillgirl]

I'm with you on this one haveabeer although not managed to get to such high anniversary levels as 46 years but I'm working on it.

My OH and I never buy each other anything, cards, gifts whatever. Our friends think we are miserable sods and at Christmas call us the Scrooges,
but in our eyes we dont need to.

If we want to buy something we do and we treat ourselves by cruising quite alot. We are on Oceana for what I suppose could be to
celebrate our 30th anniversary even though the day will have been and gone by the time we get on her, as will my husbands birthday. We would have booked it anyway, but suggested to friends it was for our anniversary, otherwise it would have been "NOT ANOTHER CRUISE"!
But because its a big anniversary treat (is it a biggie?) its acceptable if you get my drift.

Its each to their own I suppose.

Belated happy anniversary, hope to achieve that myself 16 years from now

[Delboy]

Always buy a card for birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas, but we generally don't buy one another presents.

However we do tend to celebrate Lorraines major birthdays, don't normally bother for mine, for her 50th birthday, family and friends held a surprise private birthday party, in our local pub, which was then run by our daughter's, in laws.

For Lorraine's 60th Birthday, I arranged a few days at a Hotel in London, took in a show (Les Mis, her favourite and first time she had seen it in a theatre), also film at the Odeon in Leicester square, trip on the London Eye, and trip up the Thames and back to visit the Greenwich conservatory.

Having said don't normally do anything for mine, however remember for my 70th birthday, the family did present me with a birthday cake, and we all went out for a meal in the evening. Also secretly during the night, our daughter put up a large banner across the front of our bungalow, proclaiming it was my 70th birthday to all, found it when I opened the bedroom curtains in the morning.

Don't know what we will do next year as it is my 75th birthday followed 2 months later by our 50th Anniversary, we have talked about going back to Switzerland, where we went for our honeymoon. Although this year we are going to Austria.

[ShirleyT]

It is our 44th Wedding Anniversary on Friday. We won't bother with cards or presents, we might go out for a meal. I am 70 in April and have booked for a four day break in a nice seafront hotel in Devon. Not expecting a present, the holiday is my idea of a gift. We have just booked to go to the Caribbean next January to celebrate our 45th (sapphire) Wedding Anniversary. Perhaps I might get a bit of jewellery, but it a lovely cruise is quite enough for me. We have got each other and that is the most important thing. We are deserting P and O and will be cruising with Fred Olsen to see some more unusual ports of call.

[Suekersh]

We do celebrate birthdays and anniversaries but no longer buy surprise presents. We do give each other cards for birthdays and anniversaries and generally book a cruise to either cover the birthday or close by. My birthday is hard as it is just after Xmas but not close enough for a 2 week cruise to cover Xmas and birthday. Next year it is a 24 night cruise so does cover my birthday.

This year for our Anniversary we will be on Arcadia in Bora Bora and will celebrate in the speciality restaurant that night. No singing waiters for us.

Sue

[Boris+]

Well firstly to all those with wedding anniversaries - congratulations, be ever so happy, and long may it continue.

In recent years we have gotten into the habit of telling each other, and whilst we still do birthday gifts, somehow our anniversaries and Xmas don't usually mean gifts any more either.

The way we see it is that we are just so lucky and happy every day, however never say never!

Em

[ItsmeAnnC]

We have never given cards to each other on any occasion since we've known each other. Last Sunday was our Ruby wedding anniversary. Both sons-in-law were working, one daughter exhausted after a bad night with a teething baby, and the other came to lunch, which I cooked. People asked if we were doing something special and were horrified to find we weren't. It's just another day, after all. To be honest we think it's such a waste of money for a bit of card that gets recycled after a few days. We have never bought surprise presents, but will often treat ourselves to something joint at Christmas and call it our Christmas present - last year it was a new fireplace and gas fire, which he installed. My husband was 65 on New Years Eve. I didn't get him a present or card. I will be 60 this year and don't expect them either. But he's quite happy to buy me a piece of jewellery on a cruise at his instigation - if I let him, and I often don't. It has to be something I really like to justify spending a lot of money, and I so often don't find something I like enough.
Maybe we are boring, but it's because we don't go out for meals, or to the pub or cinema, etc., that we can afford to cruise. We can't do it all.

[oldbluefox]

My wife loves cards and I think they're a waste of money. I would much rather have a bar of chocolate but we still exchange cards because.............. and I would be in big trouble if I didn't get her a card, and not one of those cheapie ones from Card Factory either!!! We don't do presents unless I can think up a surprise but these usually involve both of us being booked to go away to a fancy hotel, the theatre or a special meal out. At Christmas we don't exchange presents but promise ourselves a break away. This year we had a week in London. OH loves the shops and I can always find something else if only people watching and we also walk in the parks and go to some of the attractions on offer.

[Manoverboard]

No cards for routine anniversaries or birthdays but we celebrate big time those with the big numbers.

We also have a treat, be that a meal in, or out, else a mini break on, or near, birthday dates.

[Frank Manning]

Sue often misses our anniversary, and my birthday, but I dont mind. I always get her a card for birthday, anniversary, and Valentines. I like to show I have taken the trouble. We did have quite a celebration for our golden wedding, but normally we just go for a meal, or out for the day somewhere.

[Onelife]

I've never missed sending my wife a birthday or anniversary card but moan like hell is she wastes money on buying me one..... Its a girlie thing isn't it?

[Dancing Queen]

We don't really bother with anniversaries unless it's a special one, for the last special one we did a cruise to the Adriatic and would like to do something similar for the next one

We are now at a point where birthdays and Xmas we just buy 'token gifts' as there really isn't anything either of us wants/needs and as we always go away for Xmas we make that our gift to each other.

[Frank Manning]

I've never missed sending my wife a birthday or anniversary card but moan like hell is she wastes money on buying me one..... Its a girlie thing isn't it?

You could be right O/L....the lady lecturers at Uni used to say of me..."He's in touch with his feminine side"

[Delboy]

Would add to my previous post, we as a family, our son and his wife, daughter and 3 grandchildren, all get together when it's one of our birthdays ( we all live locally), either at our daughters or our sons. One of them will either cook a meal, or we order in a takeaway, when it's a special birthday, sometimes we will all go out for a meal together.
In case of the grandchildren we may go ten pin bowling and then to somewhere like Frankie & Bennys for a meal, which the children love.
We as a family unit are big on getting together at birthdays, and the big anniversary's, it may not be on the actual day, but very near it.
Whatever we personally decide to do next year for my 75th and our 50th Anniversary, you can bet our children will also have something planned for us.
It is also our son and his wife's birthday on the same day as our wedding anniversary

[Stephen]

I do spoil the good lady her on our anniversary by letting her into the house. Not for long, just enough time for her to give the house a once over and get my dinner. I know I'm a fool to myself

[barney]

We're relative newly-weds compared to you lot but I do make a point of spoiling Mrs Barney every day of the week (it pays off in the long run)

Plus I always make a fuss on birthdays & aniversaries

Having said all that, my present is usually something that benefits me as well, like a special trip or to see a West End show.

For her birthday in June, we're going to see the new Flavia & Vincent show. That's definately more for her than me, but I'll sit through it.

[haveabeer]

I do spoil the good lady her on our anniversary by letting her into the house. Not for long, just enough time for her to give the house a once over and get my dinner. I know I'm a fool to myself

Stephen you are a very caring person I can tell that straight away I bet your OH pinches herself every morning to remind her how lucky she is to have married you

[Frank Manning]

For her birthday in June, we're going to see the new Flavia & Vincent show. That's definately more for her than me, but I'll sit through it.

Yes and come out with eye strain after you have ogled Flavia for the entire show!

[Jacknian]

We do buy each other cards for birthdays , anniversaries, etc but don't buy gifts any more as really by the time you get to our age what do you need ? We have everything we want and if we think of something we would like we just go out and buy it. We do try to have new experiences however, like going to shows in London or spending a weekend at a spa hotel, or just a nice meal out with the family. Oh and cruises of course !

[Stephen]

I do spoil the good lady her on our anniversary by letting her into the house. Not for long, just enough time for her to give the house a once over and get my dinner. I know I'm a fool to myself

Stephen you are a very caring person I can tell that straight away I bet your OH pinches herself every morning to remind her how lucky she is to have married you

Yep, I see the tears of joy every morning as she bring me my tea in bed

[Kendhni]

Happy belated anniversary HaB.

Julie likes a card so we swap cards, apart from that for the last 20 or so years we have simply put the money into the holiday fund or into a tree for the garden or some other project on the house. No sense in wasting money on geegaws