You do what you have to do, but still feel sad
Feeling sad....
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GillD46
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Feeling sad....
....when I should be going on QE today, but have again had to cancel, but at the last minute this time.
You do what you have to do, but still feel sad
You do what you have to do, but still feel sad
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Re: Feeling sad....
Gill,
I am certain that whatever the reason behind the last minute cancellation, you have taken that decision for 'all the right reasons'.
I know from past experience how upsetting it is when a person has to 'do the right thing' and listen to their own personal conscience and cancel plans - especially when it's a much looked-forward to holiday.
Whatever your reason, rest assured that you have done the right thing; and that in due course you will be content that you took that decision.
Meanwhile, sincere best wishes.
I am certain that whatever the reason behind the last minute cancellation, you have taken that decision for 'all the right reasons'.
I know from past experience how upsetting it is when a person has to 'do the right thing' and listen to their own personal conscience and cancel plans - especially when it's a much looked-forward to holiday.
Whatever your reason, rest assured that you have done the right thing; and that in due course you will be content that you took that decision.
Meanwhile, sincere best wishes.
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Re: Feeling sad....
So sorry, Gill. I'm sure Boris is right that you have made the right decision.
Best wishes.
Maureen x
Best wishes.
Maureen x
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GillD46
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Re: Feeling sad....
Because going away was the lifeline keeping me going at the moment while my mum is dying, but the up and down nature of her dying means we are unable to go. We've had a truly terrible six months.
So of course we have done the right thing by cancelling - and losing the cost because nobody would cover us for cancellation or curtailment for her the past few years - but we and all medical personnel really thought the situation would have resolved by now and we'd be able to go. So while I didn't think twice about cancelling, I still feel sadness on top of sadness!
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So sorry to hear this Gill.
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So very sorry Gill. It must be a very distressing time for you. X
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Jan Rosser
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So sorry Gill - thinking of you - its a "no win" situation you are in - so difficult having an elderly parent as I well know. My mother has just been diagnosed with shingles today - the rash looks so sore and there is really nothing I can do for her - she has medication and is surprisingly cheerful - not sure I would be. Take care xxx
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Talking to someone yesterday and they said Bonjela helps.Jan Rosser wrote: 08 May 2017, 13:43So sorry Gill - thinking of you - its a "no win" situation you are in - so difficult having an elderly parent as I well know. My mother has just been diagnosed with shingles today - the rash looks so sore and there is really nothing I can do for her - she has medication and is surprisingly cheerful - not sure I would be. Take care xxx
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Funny thing I asked the doctor about calamine lotion and he said not to put anything on the blisters but if they are irritating wrap them in cling film - the mind boggles doesn't it - I suppose it forms some sort of barrier.allatc wrote: 08 May 2017, 15:57Talking to someone yesterday and they said Bonjela helps.Jan Rosser wrote: 08 May 2017, 13:43So sorry Gill - thinking of you - its a "no win" situation you are in - so difficult having an elderly parent as I well know. My mother has just been diagnosed with shingles today - the rash looks so sore and there is really nothing I can do for her - she has medication and is surprisingly cheerful - not sure I would be. Take care xxx
Janis
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Re: Feeling sad....
When I had shingles last year I rubbed in some calming cream.
The whole episode was very painful. It was only two weeks before I was due to go on a Baltic cruise.
Gill sorry to hear you have had to cancel your cruise. I have a friend who is sailing with Cunard in a few weeks and her elderly father has fallen at home and is in hospital. It's a sign of the times that our parents are living so long. Spent all afternoon with my father who will be 90 this year concerning funding for my mum in her nursing home.
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The whole episode was very painful. It was only two weeks before I was due to go on a Baltic cruise.
Gill sorry to hear you have had to cancel your cruise. I have a friend who is sailing with Cunard in a few weeks and her elderly father has fallen at home and is in hospital. It's a sign of the times that our parents are living so long. Spent all afternoon with my father who will be 90 this year concerning funding for my mum in her nursing home.
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Re: Feeling sad....
A forehead type pain with itching is, in many cases, the first sign of shingles ... go to the Docs within 3 days and medication to make it a less painful experience is then possible. It is also advisable to have a ' jab ' once the condition has cleared up as this will ease the symptoms if you get it again.
Source ---- Mobietta ( 2016 ).
Source ---- Mobietta ( 2016 ).
Keep smiling, it's good for your well being
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The Doctor is......INManoverboard wrote: 09 May 2017, 09:05A forehead type pain with itching is, in many cases, the first sign of shingles ... go to the Docs within 3 days and medication to make it a less painful experience is then possible. It is also advisable to have a ' jab ' once the condition has cleared up as this will ease the symptoms if you get it again.
Source ---- Mobietta ( 2016 ).
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Manoverboard
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You told us about your snip and nobody complained, well not too many anyway
Keep smiling, it's good for your well being
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Re: Feeling sad....
We're straying off-topic again!
Remember we all feel really sad for Gill and her plight
Remember we all feel really sad for Gill and her plight
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GillD46
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Thnaks for the comments. The holiday day came and went so I have now forgotten about it. Mum continues to deteriorate and we hope to be in a position to book something else in a day or two at most. There will be no funeral so we will be free to go whenever we want.
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Yes, a little respect please.qbman1 wrote: 09 May 2017, 16:27We're straying off-topic again!
Remember we all feel really sad for Gill and her plight
But, out of interest Gill, how can someone not have a funeral. Never heard of it before. You don't have to answer.
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GillD46
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Re: Feeling sad....
Mum has arranged to donate her body to Cardiff Medical School for research. There will be a brief service for her - and others - after three years, when they have finished with the bodies.
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Yes out of interest in the fact that Gill herself has told us this info, perhaps it could that mum has donated her body to medical science or is non religious.
I mentioned yesterday that my friend's dad was in hospital, another of my closest friends rang today and her mil has fallen and broken her hip.
It's all around us at the moment.
Lindsey
I mentioned yesterday that my friend's dad was in hospital, another of my closest friends rang today and her mil has fallen and broken her hip.
It's all around us at the moment.
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Thank you Gill. A wonderful gesture by your mum.GillD46 wrote: 09 May 2017, 19:01Mum has arranged to donate her body to Cardiff Medical School for research. There will be a brief service for her - and others - after three years, when they have finished with the bodies.
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Re: Feeling sad....
I had an Uncle who done the same thing (donating body)
Mind you think of the positive you're lucky to have them live as long. My father died when I was 26 (on my daughter's 2nd birthday) and my mother when I was 41
Mind you think of the positive you're lucky to have them live as long. My father died when I was 26 (on my daughter's 2nd birthday) and my mother when I was 41
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