Manoverboard wrote:Well ... poor old Grand-dad and just for balance ...
Perhaps he senses that the children are in some way gifted and that they will gain an advantageous start in life in a World that probably scares him shitless regarding their futures and maybe, just maybe, the parents are against Private education on the basis of Politics or the person who is offering it rather than what may be best for their little ones in the longer term. Let's face it children are hardy little folk who surely do not need to be mollycoddled by a dotting Mum 24/7.
Ours went to a comprehensive school but their education was in part blighted by Trotsky minded teachers, up Norf as it happens. If my old Dad could have afforded to make the same offer I suspect that we would have been minded to be grateful rather than punative.
It's a clash of personalities imo and nobody is thinking it through rationally. Pity that but fingers crossed that the children maximise their potential.
Money, there is nothing poor about this grandad at all, either monetary or otherwise.
He has only seen his eldest grandchild 8 times in four years. He won't travel up north. My son and dil go down to see him twice a year. He met the twins for the first time when they were 11 months.
He is a control freak. He nearly ruined the wedding and caused havoc as he didn't like the the colour theme nor the bridesmaid dresses. Told them that as he was paying for "some" of the wedding he was having some choices. Couldn't believe that dil had to run past him the design of her flowers and table centres.
She has learnt over the last few years, that all fathers don't behave like this and she doesn't have to accept his behaviour. As I said before she left home at 16, but until the last few years still felt she had to do as he said.
Dil nor my son were privately educated, my son is a teacher, dil is a nurse. They do not want their children to be taught in private education.
Not politics, nor anything else.
They are far from being punitive, they are standing their ground against a domineering man, who thinks it's his way or no way.